Money can buy you basic neccessities. This is things like food, shelter, safety, etc. This gives us moderate amount of happiness as we have met our daily neccessities.

Real happiness on the other hand, as in true contentment has got nothing to do with money. It has got everything to do with your beliefs and your attutude towards life and how you see things. Your family could be the reason for your happiness, your mother smiling, etc. This requires having the right perspective on life. It is a choice. 

Money is not a requirement for happiness in life but it can certainly reduce the gap on the road from discomfort to comfort. For example:
When you have money, you do not have to worry or think about bills, food and etc and if you don't have money then you will have to think about all this and you will be worried. So therefore money reduces discomfort to comfort which may give you something to smile about or make you happy.

It's all about how you take money as but money does not make life happy.

We all have them times where we feel like, we have nothing left to give, no matter how hard we try, we always seem to be heading towards the dead end and we cannot seem to find the right direction to move on. 

If we can overcome the bad times, we will find success within ourselves. It isn't always easy to head towards the right direction but if you are about to give up, always remember these 3 things:

1: Everyone make mistakes:

We are all humans and we make mistakes. Making mistakes is fine because from making mistakes, we learn and we move forward. 

When we start to learn something new, we make mistakes but once we learned the basics and learned how to do things without any difficulties, it became a skill which we couldn't forget. Nobody is perfect and we make mistakes but we live and we learn to overcome these mistakes. 

2. Prove other's wrong:
When you have started doing something good and they say you cannot do it, show them that you can do it. Play more, Practice more, Read more, Write more, Know more and work harder than the person who who is discouraging you. 

Words shouldn't effect you because in the end action speaks louder than words. If he/she learns science for 2 hours, learn three hours, if he/she writes 2 pages, write 3 pages, if he/she runs for 2 miles, run 3 miles. Rather than sitting there thinking how great they do and you complain about yourself, prove them wrong, make them spit up their words. Don't let other's discourage you, you motivate yourself by proving them wrong. 

3.  Someone is always working harder than you:
 If you think you have done all you can, then you are wrong. Every one of us has some sort of a dream, goal and motive. It just depends on how far you want to go and how you want your life to end up in. Someone could also have that same dream as you and he/she is working hard to achieve it and then there is you saying you have done you can, who is most likely to get success?

Success comes from working hard, thinking positively and never losing the determination. If you settle for good enough, that is what you will achieve in life and someone will go ahead of you. Settle for the best not good.
“Success is not obtained overnight. It comes in installments; you get a little bit today, a little bit tomorrow until the whole package is given out. The day you procrastinate, you lose that day's success.”

I want to end this April in a good note. I have been lazy, not active enough and certainly not been working hard enough comparing to last 4-5 months. I have decided that from the beginning of may, I will work hard, be active and more importantly..kill this laziness off.

I have set 2 goals for the rest of this year and hopefully complete it:

1) Be fit and healthy= I don't do any workout and I constantly keep eating and eating leading to be overweight. I am not saying that eating is bad but eating too much with no workout, it's not good. By not doing workout, the health issues becomes serious, things like chest pain will constantly keep occurring and occurring...I certainly don't like that when it happens so I want to avoid it by eating healthy and working out.

2) Show emotions when talking= This may sound strange but I have heard from several people that I rarely show any expression when talking. It is not like I care about what they say but when I thought about it more made sense. Smiling is the key one, I don't smile and maybe this is because life has given me so much pain that I don't feel like smiling but now I guess now I have to give this a try and see how I feel.

You may wonder why I am writing a blog  on such topic like this but this will help me. I make excuses whenever I start doing something good and by any chance if I make any excuses when trying to accomplish these goals...I can look at this and say "Look what you have said, now go and follow it". Excuses is not a good thing...when you are doing something which is not so good then there are  no excuses you come up with, you just go and do it but when you are doing something good...there are so many excuses you come up with.

At the end of this year, I will write again on this topic and tell you readers if I accomplished or not. 
The word passion has a simple meaning and yet it is very effective in our lives. It just means “To truly believe in something, have strong feelings for something you are passionate about and have an overwhelming desire for that something”. Every single one of us has a passion or for some of us many passions.  

You may not realise you have a passion, but you do. Figuring out is not really hard. You may have been to that stage many times but your life may not have recognized it as your passion. Passion does not come forcefully or you make it come out forcefully…you may wonder what this means, an example “A friend of mine who loves editing videos decided to do Photoshop training for some time, he had an interest because his friends were doing that training as well”. You may wonder what this means, what this means is Passion is something where you have a strong interest and has a larger purpose for you. What is the point of doing all this if you don’t enjoy yourself? Don’t make passion for someone else do it for yourself.

But saying all this, there are some people who figured out their passion when they were kids. From my experience, the parents wanted their child to be something which they desired or saw an ability in their child so they made sure that the child have been entered in lessons or whatever the child needed to become. As the child started to get used to all the training, the chid became more skilled thus their passion grew. An example to this “Sachin Tendulkar started playing cricket at the age of 15, he had a passion about cricket, he did not play for money, he played because he enjoyed it, he recently ended his career as one of the best player ever known in cricket”.

I didn’t find my passion when I was in school, when I did start to get an idea about my passion, I was redirected to other things by either my parents, relatives, or by my own ideas of what we should do or for me it was what would pay us the most money. I think most of us had this thought/idea at some stage in our life.
So here we sit in our passionless lives, doing nothing which feels boring and meaningless. There is no taste to it. How do we create a fun/passionate life now? Create an equation and this is how mine looks like and your could also look similar:

Overwhelming Interest+Hard work+No excuses+Purpose= Passion

  • You must have an overwhelming interest on something to begin with.
  •  If you don’t work hard, you won’t achieve it.
  • At the beginning it will be fun but midway throughout, you may feel exhausted or can’t continue, then don’t make excuses and keep working.
  • It has to mean something in your life and must have a purpose in your life.
If you are ever going to find your passion, always have an interest to begin with. Then start working hard for several days and months. When working hard, never make excuses or give up in any ways.
If everything is going accordingly to your equation, then you will become deeply engaged in that something. Then it will get to a deeper level in terms of purpose in your life. And that is a recipe for a good passion or even life passion for some. But remember this nothing is easy without hard work, don’t just rely on words. You must put in the effort too and never give up!

When you make mistakes…what’s the first thing you do? Do you feel sad that you made such mistake? Do you use logical proofs to support your mistake? Do you keep on finding reasons on how you made such mistake?

Well I used to follow all these things before as I had thought that mistakes will lead me to failures only. But when I realized by following all those things, I am making even a bigger mistake and I became an expert in giving reasons for each mistakes, most of the reasons were lies to make myself happy.

Now what I learned is that by making mistakes, you learn new things. For example if you were making a website which requires you to code and if you got everything running perfectly, you will not learn and most of the time you will not learn the logic behind it whereas when you make a mistake, you can see what you did wrong and you will learn the logic behind it. Whenever I come to know mistake has happened…I always say this to myself “Don’t worry Sakar, no matter how complex this mistake is, you can fix it and now find out the SOLUTION and not the SUPPORTING reason for it”.

Once the mistake is solved, I say this to myself “See you have done it, how does it feel? It feels better than making some lame excuses right?” and I look back through what I did and I analyse what I am learning from this mistake. I am more alert now and I find it good that if I make mistakes…it will show me where I have to work on more.

Remember mistakes will not lead you to failures instead it will help you in your journey to gain success.

No it is not a good sign. Overthinking is the root of all your problems and it is considered to be bad. It usually exists when someone says something that reaches deep down onto your mind. It can be something good or it can be something bad but it stays with you. Somebody once told me in a state of my own misery and sadness that “Overthinking kills your happiness, kills your self-belief & kills your trust”. It was really simple to understand, it didn’t seem to have anything complex or weight to it, this simple phrase changed everything to me that day.

Whenever I find myself overthinking and drifting into a state of self-deprecation, I immediately look back at that phrase and I say that phrase out loud to myself until the truth of it comes out to my understanding. The most important thing I noticed from doing this is what the reason was behind the problems.

As you grow older and older, your regrets, your failures, your unwanted memories decides to pop up and you realize that your mind is your enemy. When you are alone, why does your mind ramble off to those untouched places of your mind?

Isn’t there anything we can do? How do you expect to live with all those troubled memories that sits in your mind? Well I have realised that life is not about looking at the past instead it is about moving ahead of that past. It is all about moving ahead, far far away from the bullshit that once troubled you. In order to be happy in life you have to learn how to live with the pain and that only BEGINS when you learn how to control your thoughts. Because your thoughts are which kills you or it is your biggest enemy. It’s not the words from others that have effect on us, but how we let those words affect us.

You MUST learn to stop overthinking at any cost. You may not realise it but it’s the silent enemy that will steadily kill your happiness. Worrying about what someone thinks of you will only keep you from the person you’re supposed to be. Once someone told me that “You should not care about what they say, you either be like them or just DON'T CARE and move on". This felt right because I did not desired to be like them at all. Your mind has this special ability where it will take you to places that should not have been gone into and this all depends on YOU.

What’s the point of wasting all your energy and especially time thinking about something which is gone and something which can’t be changed? Past is Past, what happened it’s over. Life is too short to be thinking about this kind of things. The moment you’ve finally accepted that nothing can be done and life will still move on, believe me YOU ARE FREE. Free from this negative thoughts that have captured you.

As you continue moving through life, you will encounter bad things, bad people around you and you must stop overthinking. I mean life is simple as it is, why kill it by overthinking? –Sakar

There are many common things, that we do not value at all, unless we loose their sight. The first lesson-- Appreciate whatever you have and learn to hold the smallest or insignificant happiness you get . Smallest, Insignificant and etc etc are adjectives that CHANGE with time. You would not like to regret, when these change. 

Every living thing such as Bacteria, Ants, Lions are all busy in their world or occupation. Every one of them ways to spend their time and those are really important for them. When you spend time with others or when you get their time, make sure that you get or give the best to it. You never know what is going to happen tomorrow. 

There are undoubtedly loads of things that we are all scared to do or we think we are foolish or be ashamed to do. But people, some people do that. If you ever feel like doing something 'foolish' or 'stupid', just do it. Our world would have still been in stone age if people didn't do anything like that, there is always something better awaiting at the end of a foolish trial.

Every thing has a strange way of getting back to you, as we produce and pass them around. Even if things and people look gross or grim, just remember- "we change, time change and so do they". This is the most beautiful aspect around us. Everything is beautiful or becomes so- just need the right focus and right amount of positive in us. Spend more energy-it's the only thing we can do for a better tomorrow. 

Be yourself:

The main goal in life is to enjoy yourself but there will be barriers (People) who will get in your ways to stop you from enjoying and for many it would either irritate or upset them. I mean This could be things like someone making fun of you because you are weak or because of your personality or the way you look or the way you talk.

There is no reason to be irritated or upset as it will not change anything but instead you will be lost into a world where you will over-think and you won't be able to enjoy things. Whatever problems you may face, there is something you can always do to overcome it.
If someone says something which upsets you or irritates you, "You should not care about what they say, you either be like them or just DON'T CARE and move on". 

"Develop a passion, Experience new things whether it is good or bad, Enjoy this person that is you. If you don't, no one will either, enjoy your 'Self' and don't regret anything in life because you have only one life to enjoy"

Life is a race they say;
but I am not a horse
who will win the cup
for its master's sake

Survival is a war they say;
but I am not a soldier
who will win the war
for the sake of their leaders

Living is an art they say;
but I won’t paint a picture
to hang in a gallery and 
for the world to interpret its meaning

Beauty is of the owner they say;
but I wont glorify the beautiful 
to beautify their life
for the sake of my fulfilment

I want to love without any reason
I want to swim in the eye of the storm
I want to love in the midst of the hatred 
I want to feel passion in the bosoms of sorrow